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The question format is how do you feel when you think about blank and the blanks are going to relate to the topic of family conflict, get started a second?
How do you feel when you think about being estranged from one of your family members?
How do you feel when you think about apologizing to this family member?
How do you feel when you think about this family member apologizing to you?
How do you feel when you think about having to choose sides in a family conflict?
How do you feel when you think about telling someone else that they should choose a side in the family conflict?
How do you feel when you think about the amount of conflict in your family?
How do you feel when you think about how much people in your family avoid conflict?
And how do you feel when you think about the people in your family resolving the conflict?
Okay, that's it.
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The question format is how do you imagine this person might feel when they think about blank and the blanks are going to relate to the topic of lying? So I could start in a second.
How do you imagine this person might feel when they think about lying to you?
How do you imagine this person might feel when they think about lying in general?
How do you imagine this person might feel when they think about lying directly to your face?
How do you imagine this person might feel when they think about you lying to them?
How do you imagine this person might feel and I think about you lying directly to their face.
How do you imagine this person might feel when they think about somebody else, finding out that they lied?
How do you imagine this person might feel when they think about finding out that you lied to them?
And how do you imagine this person might feel when they think about telling the truth?
Okay, that's it.
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The drill I'm going to introduce right now is called another thing and this is going to be a five minute introduction explanation on the purpose of the drill and the format of the drill and how it may help you. Um So the format of the drill is what's one thing that currently makes you feel this emotion? What's another thing that currently makes you feel this emotion? What's another thing that currently makes you feel this emotion and so on and so forth? And the idea is to fix an emotion. So it could be sadness, could be joy could be anger could be whatever it may be and to try to rotate through possible context that are contributing to it. So I think very often in life say for example that if we're feeling angry, we can sometimes associate only one context with that anger. I am angry because this person did that. Okay, is that the sole source of the anger? I often believe it's not, I believe that many times it's coming from multiple different parts of our lives. Um That one emotion can have multiple derivations or multiple sources. And so the idea with this drill is really to drill down into that is to try to explore, a particular motion to break us out of almost the fixed mindset that we have this one thing that is causing this one feeling. So for example, if I'm feeling angry sometimes it's because somebody showed up late for lunch, but it could also be because I got stuck in traffic on the way there. It could also be that I didn't sleep that well in the previous night because I was worried about being late. It could also be that um, I lost a deal for business, you know, maybe a client fell through. And so there could be multiple things that were happening even that day, but even longer term, you know, perhaps in the past somebody showed up late repeatedly in a relationship. And so I got so tired of it and frustrated, but I was angry that I wouldn't speak up and say something about it. And so the idea is not. So the idea is to try to find multiple sources that are contributing to this emotion. So that, you know, sometimes it's very hard to resolve the one conflict that's in front of us. Maybe it's again somebody showing up late for lunch, maybe it's very hard change that they showed up late one we could express to that person, but maybe some things are very much outside of our control, but there are other things that are inside of our control that we can address. So for anger, it's maybe about addressing or approaching, but for different emotions, maybe it's about relaxation, it's about helping to see that there are multiple things that I could do, that could contribute to me feeling more relaxed if that's how I do want to feel. Um so there's lots of different ways. I think that we could take this drill um that those are some of the purposes that I see behind it is to just explore that we have this one. Feeling associated with so many other contexts, I'm realizing five minutes, maybe a little long. So I'll cut this 3.5. And so yeah, I would say explore it to try it and see if there are some things in the drill that can illuminate this idea for you. But also, I'm curious to hear if there are other answers or other reflections that you have using the drill and how it's helped you in different ways. So this is about three minutes, 45 seconds. And yeah, I hope this was helpful. Thanks.
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The question for me is how do you feel when you think about blank and the blanks are going to relate to you dying? Get started a second.
How do you feel when you think about dying?
How do you feel when you think about dying in your sleep?
How do you feel when you think about dying from a gunshot?
How do you feel when you think about dying alone?
How do you feel when you think about dying, surrounded by the people you love?
How do you feel when you think about dying this year?
How do you feel when you think about dying in five years from now?
And how do you feel when you think about dying In your 80s or 90s?
All right, That's it.
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The question format is how do you imagine that this person might feel when they think about blank and the blanks are going to relate to your physical health? It's starting a second.
How do you imagine this person might feel when they think about your current physical health?
How do you imagine this person might feel when they think about your physical health five years ago?
How do you imagine this person might feel when they think about your physical health in five years from now in the future?
How do you imagine this person might feel when they think about you going to the doctor?
How do you imagine this person might feel when they think about you going to exercise?
How do you imagine this person might feel when they think about you gaining weight?
How do you imagine this person might feel when they think about you losing weight?
And how do you imagine this person might feel when they think about you saying that you feel comfortable in your body?
Okay, that's it.
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The question format is how do you imagine this person might feel when they think about blank and the blanks are going to relate to the topic of you dying, Get started a second.
How do you imagine this person might feel when they think about you dying?
How do you imagine this person might feel when they think about you dying this year?
How do you imagine this person might feel when they think about you dying in five years from now?
How do you imagine this person might feel when they think about you dying in your 80s or 90s?
How do you imagine this person might feel when they think about you dying in an accident?
How do you imagine this person might feel and they think about you dying sudden suddenly?
How do you imagine this person might feel when they think about you dying in your sleep?
How do you imagine this person might feel and they think about you dying alone?
How do you imagine this person might feel? And they think about you dying surrounded by loved ones.
And how do you imagine this person might feel when they think about being by your side, when you're dying?
Okay, that's it.
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The question format is how do you feel when you think about blank and the blanks are going to relate to physical health? So I could start in a second.
How do you feel when you think about your current physical health?
How do you feel when you think about how your physical health was last year?
How do you feel when you think about how your physical health was five years ago?
How do you feel when you think about your current physical health next year?
How do you feel when you think about going out for some exercise?
How do you feel when you think about someone telling you that you're not very physically healthy?
How do you feel when you think about going to the doctor?
How do you feel when you think about looking at yourself in the mirror?
How do you feel when you think about your current physical capabilities and how do you feel when you think about your strength?
Okay, that's it for now?
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The question format is How do you feel when you think about blank and the blanks are going to relate to the topic of being on time? Get started a second?
How do you feel when you think about showing up to an event on time?
How do you feel when you think about somebody else showing up to the event on time?
How do you feel when you think about somebody telling you that they're going to be on time?
How do you feel when you think about you showing up early tournament?
How do you feel when you think about somebody else showing up early to an event?
How do you feel when you think about the event, starting on time?
How do you feel when you think about the events starting late.
And how do you feel when someone asks you if you're still going to be on time.
And one more? How do you feel when you think about asking somebody else if they're going to be on time?
Okay, that's it.
